A good kisser will really ignite huge chemistry, and send a tingling feeling rushing through her body. It has been theorized that a woman will decide after the first kiss, whether or not she will have sex with the man. Indeed many women may initially decide to pursue a relationship with a guy, but when they find out he’s a bad or a mediocre kisser, they change our minds entirely.
Most people, men and women, will judge the first kiss as a precursor to whether or not the rest of the physical relationship will work. If the person kisses badly, then they are probably not amazing at the other areas. So it is vital to get the first kiss perfect.
Where to Kiss – A first kiss should always be done while the two of you are alone. You should never kiss her in front of her friends as this will create unnecessary nervousness and embarrassing situations. It will draw immediate attention and make her feel uncomfortable. Instead, you should kiss her when you have isolated her and the two of you are alone. This may be in the smoking area, outside the bar or in your car. Kissing stimulates women faster than any other physical activity. It is important to consider the strong sexual reactions that typically accompany a kiss.
If you have already established an intense physical chemistry between you and your partner, it is likely that the kiss will become very passionate and this can only happen when the two of you are alone. However, in a bar kissing is the absolute maximum level to cross. Do not escalate the physicality of the situation any further as you will portray yourself as a sleazy guy and a player. Respect yourself and her and be mindful of your surroundings.
When to Kiss – You only kiss go to her when you are absolutely sure that she will kiss you. This could be in the first ten minutes or you may have to wait far longer. How can you possibly know when is the perfect time? Is there a way to know every time if she will kiss you or not? The answer is yes – If you can read body language and use attraction tests. So many guys do not pick up on her body language cues and just lean in blindly when the girl is not ready and so get rejected.
Look for inviting body language and improve your expertise by studying the section in this book, on the signs of attraction. You can also give her attraction tests to see if she is ready to kiss you yet. For example, if you ask to sip her drink and she refuses, you can be sure that if you had leaned in to kiss her, she would have turned away. One of the best attraction tests to give before going for the kiss is to kiss your index finger and put it against her lips and tell her to kiss it. If she does, then she is probably waiting for you to kiss her. Once you get good as accessing body language and understanding how to give attraction tests, you will know when to kiss her every time
How to go for the Kiss – Before you go to kiss her, you must let her know that you are going in for the kiss at least a few seconds in advance. If you do not do this, then there is a chance that she will turn away when you try to kiss her. This does not mean that she doesn’t want to kiss you. It is merely a reflex action that most of us do naturally when people get too close too quickly. There are many ways that you can let her know that you are going to kiss her. You can do this verbally by asking her the following
“Are you a good kisser? How would you rate yourself out of 10 in terms of kissing…?”
If she says yes, then you can simply lean in and kiss her. Perhaps the best way is to simply let the conversation trail off and look her in the eye. Slowly move your gaze down to her lips and then back up to her eyes. If she blushes, then you know she is ready to be kissed. Either way, you have given her a very clear signal that you are going to kiss her.
How to Kiss – When you kiss her, you want the kiss to take on a life of its own. Everybody remembers a kiss that left them breathless and sent chills sent through their body. A kiss can seal a deal or destroy it. It’s amazing how one action can say so much. Just as your lips meet, close your eyes. Some people choose to leave their
eyes open during the kiss. However, until you know what your partner prefers, it is best to close your eyes. You can start off with soft kisses on the lips to make her feel comfortable.
Perhaps suck on her lips a little. Do not do open mouth kissing until the kiss has lasted for at least a few seconds. Then open your mouth slightly and place your lips over your partner’s lips and see how they respond. As the two of you move closer together, tilt your head slightly to avoid hitting noses. If you can see which way your partner’s head is tilted, tilt your head slightly in the opposite direction. Barely touch her lips when kissing. Your hands are also important and you can use your fingers to touch her lips and face. Maintaining steady eye contact before and after the kiss is very important.